TBIRD and DIV0RCE

[Ray]

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I just read an article talking about the #1 most annoying question after a divorce. Take a guess before scrolling down for the answer.







































"Are you dating yet?"

[pinkilee]

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I just read an article talking about the #1 most annoying question after a divorce. Take a guess before scrolling down for the answer.
"Are you dating yet?"

I was asked this while the divorce was still in process.

[justjon]

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The 05 at my Ford dealer with 48,000 miles silver, standard black interior, painted wheels $18,000 ... clean but not that pretty, IMHO

[TBirdChris]

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What is the appropriate time to start dating again after the divorce is final. It sure is easier than it used to be based on all the web sites that are available. My divorce could be final as soon as Jan 13. I rather doubt it though based on what the X.

[Ski]

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What is the appropriate time to start dating again after the divorce is final. It sure is easier than it used to be based on all the web sites that are available. My divorce could be final as soon as Jan 13. I rather doubt it though based on what the X.

May be part of the problem is people start dating before they start divorcing, just a thought. I empathize with those going through this emotional trauma. My sister is going through it now.

[Gobird]

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The day either you or her move out.

[redbirdsal]

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What is the appropriate time to start dating again after the divorce is final. .

Take the focus off "dating", and just make new friends, or spend time with current friends who you find interesting.

Focus on creating friendships, but try not to talk about your upcoming divorce, or the problems you've had, or are having with your Ex.

[TBirdChris]

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May be part of the problem is people start dating before they start divorcing, just a thought. I empathize with those going through this emotional trauma. My sister is going through it now.

Sorry to hear about your sister. Anything I can do to help since I'm going through it at the same time?

[TBirdChris]

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Take the focus off "dating", and just make new friends, or spend time with current friends who you find interesting.

Focus on creating friendships, but try not to talk about your upcoming divorce, or the problems you've had, or are having with your Ex.

Good advice!! Sometime I feel I am imposing on my friends. Especially the married ones. But they seem to accept me and want to help me. Whatever I do with them, I try my hardest to make it very enjoyable by being upbeat, laughing as much as I can and try not to talk any more about the divorce. Most of my friends have heard it all already so I can give them a quick update and move on.

[pinkilee]

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Take the focus off "dating", and just make new friends, or spend time with current friends who you find interesting.

Focus on creating friendships, but try not to talk about your upcoming divorce, or the problems you've had, or are having with your Ex.

A wise woman speaking wise words!

[Leroy]

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I went throught it about 25 years ago after being married for 18 yr.s. After it was all over I desided to not look back and to work on starting a new life for me and my 16 year old Son. My Daughter wanted to live with her Mother and my Son with me. About 4 yr.s later I remarried to a women with two children, we've been married now 21 yr.s and all our kids are grown up and married and we have 5 Grandkids and another on the way. My 2 kids and my Wifes 2, all get along and treat each other like they're real Brothers and Sisters. We have a great family, and yes the ex-wife is still in the picture. She never remarried, the guy she dumped me for dumped her. My Wife insists that I be nice to her, for the sake of the Grandkids. They love all three of their Grandmas. Life goes on and is what you make it. Leroy

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[Southern]

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That's a good story Leroy and some good advice.

[redbirdsal]

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Take the focus off "dating", and just make new friends, or spend time with current friends who you find interesting.

Focus on creating friendships, but try not to talk about your upcoming divorce, or the problems you've had, or are having with your Ex.

Good advice!! Sometime I feel I am imposing on my friends. Especially the married ones. But they seem to accept me and want to help me. Whatever I do with them, I try my hardest to make it very enjoyable by being upbeat, laughing as much as I can and try not to talk any more about the divorce. Most of my friends have heard it all already so I can give them a quick update and move on.

The good friends you have now, both male and female, married, or not, are the ones you can talk to about your divorce issues.
They are a valued support system...as are we, on TBN.

My suggestion is concerning the lucky ladies that you may be interested in dating. Form friendships with them first, and talk to them about anything other than your divorce issues.

[TBirdChris]

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The good friends you have now, both male and female, married, or not, are the ones you can talk to about your divorce issues.
They are a valued support system...as are we, on TBN.

My suggestion is concerning the lucky ladies that you may be interested in dating. Form friendships with them first, and talk to them about anything other than your divorce issues.

"Lucky Ladies"!!!!! Thank You!!!!

[MidLifeBird]

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I sold my yellow '02 when I thought I was about to get a divorce a few years ago. We (mostly I) tried to work things out and let the marriage drag out for a couple of more years. During that time I bought a black '03. When I finally filed the papers there was never any thought of giving up the car. The divorce was final on the tenth of this month and the bird is sitting on my carport right now. Of course it used to sit in an enclosed garage, but you can't have everything, can you? I don't know exactly what I'd do differently if I had it all to do again, but I sure do miss the little yellow bird.
As far as values, both lawyers in my case were happy to use Kelly Blue Book. We divided four vehicles, so it was relative if KBB was high or low. As long as you assume KBB is high on all or low on all it will average out. We didn't want to sell any of the cars and the divorce was amicable, so everybody, especially me, was happy. Good luck to you.